Stop Seeking Validation from Others

It is reasonable for anyone to want their ideas, choices, achievements, or opinions validated by those around them. After all, what is the first thing we do as children when we accomplish something? We look to our parents for recognition or validation that we did a good thing. Validation can be defined as "recognition and… Continue reading Stop Seeking Validation from Others


Reclaiming Your Power

“History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heart-breaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” — B. C. Forbes In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway where he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the… Continue reading Reclaiming Your Power


When Home is Not Home

One of the most beautiful and evocative of all words is ‘home’. Folded within it are suggestions of safety, understanding, sympathy, warmth and belonging. It is to home that we turn in our minds in desolate moments, when self-doubt and fear threaten to overwhelm us, when enemies insult us and confidence ebbs.  But, at points,… Continue reading When Home is Not Home


For Those Stuck in a Relationship

This is for those among us who are, secretly very stuck,  that is, who are entirely committed to staying, wholly tempted to leave and entirely unable to resolve their dilemma one way or the other. You, the stuck one, alternate between periods in which you manage to convince yourself that it might after all be… Continue reading For Those Stuck in a Relationship


Small Acts of Liberation

It’s not necessarily a well-flagged problem, we tend to situate the risks to our happiness elsewhere but for a proportion of us, the greatest obstacle to our flourishing lies in a high and persistent degree of inhibition. We are, in a range of areas, painfully hesitant about saying what we deeply want, appreciating where we… Continue reading Small Acts of Liberation


A Non-Tragic View of Breaking Up

MCL News of the end of relationships tends to be greeted with deep solemnity in our societies; it is hard not to think of a breakup except in terms of a minor tragedy. People will offer condolences as they might after a funeral. This in turn reflects an underlying philosophy of love, we are taught… Continue reading A Non-Tragic View of Breaking Up


How to Tell a Colleague Their Breath Smells

We tend to have a pretty confident attitude towards the technical failings of the people we work with. These failings may be maddening, but we know how to put them right. Someone needs to go on a course to update their knowledge of building regulations or attend a seminar on data entry. We don’t feel… Continue reading How to Tell a Colleague Their Breath Smells


Can Exes Still be Friends?

Mersam Consulting There are some very strong and socially-endorsed reasons why partners breaking up generally try to remain friends. To the person being, however nicely rejected, the promise of friendship can feel like an emotionally-reassuring consolation prize. You may no longer be allowed to share their bed, have children with them or end our days… Continue reading Can Exes Still be Friends?



Do you know how the best of Communicators or Public speakers started it all? Here are a few things to note Every good leader has something to say. Yet, many of us don’t take the time to polish and shape how we communicate those ideas to others or ponder how others may receive our message.… Continue reading MASTERING THE BASICS OF COMMUNICATION & PUBLIC SPEAKING



Bananas are extremely healthy and delicious. They contain several essential nutrients and provide benefits for digestion, heart health and weight loss. Aside from being very nutritious, they are also a highly convenient snack food. Below are a few science based health benefits of Bananas. Bananas contain many important Nutrients Bananas are among the world’s… Continue reading GO BANANAS FOR BANANAS